The giveaway is closed! Our three winners will be receiving an email! Everyone else — consider buying the book. It may save a marriage — it may save yours!
I hope you had a lovely Easter and are continuing the glorious celebration of the Risen Lord!
The above picture is from yesterday, cold but sunny.
Today:
Never mind.
I have an important book to give away, so let's get right to it: 3 copies of Impossible Marriages Redeemed: They Didn't End the Story in the Middle. (Affiliate link*),
Leila Miller has put together hopeful and inspiring stories, all completely true, of marriages that are saved. These people didn't give in to the divorce culture, despite truly oppressive difficulties.
They stood and fought. Read about how real couples rescued their marriages and went on to live happily ever after — yes, it is possible, once we realize that this vision includes struggle and sacrifice — sometimes by one spouse without the help of the other for a good long time.
Leila gives 65 voices a chance to convince our world with their own marriages that divorce is not the answer, no matter how dire the circumstances seem. And your mind will boggle at what people have done to hold fast! In nearly every case, my own thought was, “Well, this is one where she should just walk away for sure.” How little faith we have.
In some cases, the people in the book simply stood, one spouse holding to the truth of the marriage, with no fairy tale ending. As I've written here many times, this standing has its own reward in preserving the hope of the children and in bearing witness to society. For the stander there is only the satisfaction of remaining firm in suffering; but we have to remember that we are not made for this world.
You will remember that Leila Miller edited another book, Primal Loss (affiliate link*), that sparked a real and noticeable change in how people speak about divorce. For the first time, when the stories of what children really think and suffer in divorce were allowed to be heard, the narrative that “divorce is necessary for moving on and the children are all right” could be challenged. The next step was clearly to offer hope for preventing divorce, and I really admire Leila for accepting that challenge with this new volume.
This new book, Impossible Marriages Redeemed*, needs to be read by everyone whose marriage is rocky, who counsels those whose marriage is under attack, and who knows anyone who is at risk for divorce. (The Foreword, written by my husband, is very good too!)
We need to turn around our divorce culture. The readiness with which we break sacred bonds has called down on our society great evils. But it's true that in many cases, people resort to divorce because they don't have a vision or model for anything different, and this book remedies that problem. There are examples galore, right here in this book, offered from the heart.
I encourage you to enter for a chance to win one of three copies that Leila has generously offered, and to buy copies for yourself, your parish priest, and your counselor friends. Slip one to that person in your life who is about to make a terrible mistake!
Enter a comment for your chance! I will pick three winners at the end of the week.
*An affiliate link means a small amount goes to us when you buy, but we would recommend this book even without it!
bits & pieces
- Remember that Lenten coloring calendar that was so intricate? Good news — there is an Easter one as well! Get it here. It's lovely and quite involved — good for an older child who can read, enjoyable for the motivated adult.
- Excellent review of a bad feature film about the great Phyllis Schlafly. Learn who she really was.
- The more I look in to how disease is overcome, the more I am convinced that the most important factor is basic hygiene. Truly, there is no need in ordinary life to be compulsive; certainly we should be attentive. We need to practical hygiene that doesn't overlook the most fundamental issues of air, sunlight, and cleanliness. An interesting article about the evolution of the bathroom.
- Do you know about this site that provides evidence-based childbirth information? Lots of good stuff about birthing in these scary times with Covid as well as all the other issues to navigate. Specifically, here is a sample form to sign to refuse separation from baby.
- Giving Poland and Hungary Their (Qualified) Due — worth reading and thinking about the concept (described by Pierre Manent) of the fanaticism of the center.
- In general I have become more skeptical about the efficacy and safety of vaccines, but I am most concerned with those that are derived immorally, from aborted fetal cells. No matter what the benefit, it can never be right for the death of one person to be required for the health of others. We are in the position of being able to voice our concern with a potential Covid vaccine, as two are in development and one does not use aborted fetal cells. I would hope that all those of good will would urge the pursuit of that one! I'm not sure who one tells, but at least know the facts.
- Using aborted fetal cells in medicine can seem like a scientific issue with only a remote relation to ethics. But abortion is connected with paganism, including the idea that the sacrifice of innocent life protects people from harm. “You might be thinking modern-day abortion, although perhaps done for the same reasons, is not the same as ancient ritual infant sacrifice. For one thing, where’s the ritual? Believe it or not, it is not at all uncommon for women to engage in some kind of ritual behavior around their abortion experience.” Read the evidence.
- Some day when we can all travel again, let's go to this gorgeous shrine of Our Lady of Guadalupe in Wisconsin!
- A more flourishing society, including one that is more hospitable to neighborhood businesses and services, would have a lot less occupational licensing. The emergency lifting of these barriers to entry in the current crisis could be the turning point if we pay attention.
- I'm so glad that public schools are closed. They have done no end of mischief. Our children need to be sprung from those jails! Here is a good article about the transgender ideology that is being promoted there (and other places), victimizing our nation's children: “Our academies, our hospitals, and our schools are sick with the belief—ancient and well-intentioned but fatal nonetheless—that the flesh is a prison from which the spirit can be freed.”
from the archives
- Whining children getting you down? Whining whiners and how to cure them
liturgical year
Saturday in the Octave of Easter — let's continue to celebrate our joy of the resurrection!
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Heather Russell says
I am looking forward to reading Leila’s book.
Toni Graham says
Hello! I would love to win a copy of Leila Miller’s book, _Impossible Marriages Redeemed_!
Thank you. I love your blog, and I am so grateful for the excellent work you and Leila M. are doing.
Dixie says
I actually am just starting to reread Hannah Fowler! We could all use a dose of her fortitude right now.
Jenny says
Yes, please! Enter me in the giveaway. Always enjoy your posts, Auntie!
Catie Hb says
Would love this book! Thank you!
Shyla says
Oh thank you for this giveaway, What a wonderful resource to be able to offer! There truly is no where to look for examples of redeemed marriages.
I bought my copy of Hannah Fowler years ago (on your recommendation of course!) and I have read it more than once.
That snow is uncalled for.
Stay strong lol xoxo
Emily says
I live in La Crosse, WI, and sing in the schola for the Latin Mass that is offered at the shrine every Sunday! It is a beautiful Shrine and definitely worth a visit! Let me know if you do, indeed, come for a visit; I would love to meet you:)
Piper says
Thank you for your pearls of wisdom, Auntie Leila! And thank you for the giveaway.
I enjoyed your 4/1 post tremendously!
Ruthie says
I would love to win a copy of the book for my friend who is standing in a hard marriage, to encourage that she’s not alone! I would like to read it myself as well! Thanks for being a “stander” yourself about so many important things, a culture changer.
Kiera says
Thank you for offering this giveaway! I would love a chance to read Miller’s important work.
Stephanie Guillory says
I have a young friend. She is thoughtful, caring,generous, and a good Catholic! She recently married a childhood friend,; they each have a child to raise from a previous relationship, very complicated lives. She has asked me to pray, even help! Perhaps this book? Please consider me for this book as I counsel Elizabeth and Dillon!
Thank you!
Faith Hobbs says
Watching grandchildren approach marriageable age and seeing the culture they are moving into, A book like Leila Miller’s could be a Godsend to help them read positive examples of perseverance and truly living out the faith. Thanks for bringing the book to our attention!
Hannah J H says
I would love to win that book! Both as someone who always needs a good dose of hope and perspective (melancholic over here), but also as the spouse of someone involved in ministry in the Church, we would do well to have this book on our shelves!
Melissa says
I would love a copy of that book! We run our marriage prep program and in the last class, most of the attendees came from broken homes. Thank you!
Christine says
That is so sad.
Lisa Guarnaccio says
Hello Leila, I clicked on the link you provided for evidence based birthing info……..I was looking into it for my niece who will be giving birth at the end of May. While scrolling through looking for the article regarding giving birth during Covid19, I found what I was looking for and clicked on the link. I was quite shocked to see the lady they spoke with in the article, is a self proclaimed “queer feminist”. She has an Instagram link attached to her name and so I clicked on that and was quite disturbed by what she posts.
It concerns me greatly that people would be brought to her offered links considering her way of thinking and lifestyle.
I’m trying to change the secular thinking within my family and so I am glad I looked at this article first because I would not want to further this type of thinking with people in my life.
I’m bringing this to your attention because I wasn’t sure if you realized that was in there.
Thank you.
Lisa
Leila says
Ugh, Lisa, this is always the problem. I used to have a sidebar with blogs I enjoyed, but quickly found out that even if THAT blog was fine, HER sidebar — yikes!
So I took it down.
As I used to say here, I don’t necessarily recommend everything on every site I link to. I thought the information they have is worth the risk, especially about giving birth with Covid hanging over our heads.
Lisa Guarnaccio says
Hello Leila, thank you for getting back to me so quick! I understand what you’re saying. I just didn’t expect it and so it threw me…… Appreciate your reply.
Happy Divine Mercy Sunday tomorrow!
Elizabeth says
Thank you for the giveaway! Your blog is always a breath of fresh air!
Sarah Scherrer says
So important! And I’m glad to hear about the book Primal Loss, which is new to me.
Leila Miller says
Sarah, you can read it right now, for free, in PDF form:
LeilaMiller.net/digitalbook
God bless you!
Sonya says
I would love a copy of this book. I could use the encouragement. Speaking of Our Lady of Guadalupe, there is a place in Windsor, OH that is “Home of the World’s Largest Statue of Our Lady of Guadalupe” at the “Servants of Mary Center for Peace”.
Laura L says
Thanks for the book recommendations. It would be great to win this book!
Primal Loss is already in my amazon cart.
Rachel says
We have a couple in a marriage crisis coming to visit for encouragement. This book would be a great help. But, let’s be honest, it would fortify my marriage as well. We all need encouragement! Thank you for sharing.
Tana Jimenez says
I have a friend who confided in me that she is having trouble forgiving because her husband isn’t sorry. I would love to be able to give her a copy of this book.
Sara says
May I suggest prayer, prayer, and more prayer? The book will be a great help, I’m sure, but I know that I have spent years and many Lents, in particular, praying for the grace to be able to forgive certain people who weren’t sorry. Sometimes you have to say it repeatedly, write it out (even if you don’t deliver it), and just keep asking for the grace for it to be real forgiveness. Our Blessed Mother has always been of particular help when forgiveness is needed in our marriage.
I’d love to win a copy of the book, Leila. I have Primal Loss and so much of what they say resonates with my experience! I’ve actually learned a lot about myself in the reading.
Linda says
My daughter just sent this to me after we had a long & in-depth conversation about the state of my & her Dad’s marriage. It’s time to try something different.
Anonymous says
Wow. This is an answered prayer. I’m trying to fulfill my vows but do live in a marriage that began with tremendous trauma due to my husband having some very serious problems I wasn’t aware of. It’s easy to feel alone especially since his struggles are of a somewhat secretive nature, one you don’t talk about. I need the hope this book may offer.
Donna L. says
Anonymous~ I will pray for you tomorrow for our Divine Mercy rosary–God bless you and keep you
Jennifer says
Auntie Leila, can you share whether this book encouraged spouses and children to stay in abusive homes? I get a little nervous based on your description and something someone else said about Primal Loss. I haven’t read either for myself yet.
Dixie says
Jennifer, I have read the book, and it absolutely does not encourage staying in an abusive situations. In fact, many of the stories include a necessary physical and sometimes legal separation. That is sometimes a crucial part of the eventual transformation.
Jennifer says
Thank you!
Leila says
Of course not! No one in his right mind would tell someone to stay and be abused. However, even those marriages can be redeemed. Sometimes a separation is necessary. Sometimes even civil divorce is necessary (VERY rarely but in the case of a truly abusive or insane spouse). But marriage itself can be “stood” for and there are cases — you will read about them — that can be rescued.
We need to hear this. We need to know how! Too much “move on, give up” mentality in our society.
Catherine says
I knew a lady when I was a teenager (a faithful Catholic) who had to divorce her husband civilly because he was a severe alcoholic and he kept ruining the family financially (I don’t know if there was also physical abuse). But she considered herself still married and would go over to his house and clean up his vomit and take him to the hospital when needed right until he died. She was such a witness to everyone (hospital workers, etc.)(and me) of what it means “until death do you part” and remaining faithful despite everything.
Jamie says
My parents are an interesting story. They divorced after 9 years of marriage and moved a few blocks apart so my brother and I could still go to the same school. Neither remarried or even dated much. They are grandparents now, are at every kid birthday party and holiday, take care of each other’s animals when one is away, and take each other to the doctors if needed. When my dad’s cat had to be put down, he called my mom and she went with him to the vet. They discuss finances. It is interesting. This all really shifted when the first grandchild was born. They are the most married divorced couple I’ve ever known.
Leila says
Jamie, that is so interesting. People simply don’t realize (perhaps because we are so sex obsessed) that the satisfaction of life together later on is precisely in enjoying the family as it grows and expands. No one else has the shared memory of the times the couple has gone through, of the early days.
I actually love that your parents are “mutual standers” even if they aren’t quite aware of it!
It also speaks to maybe the need for spouses to give each other a little room. Maybe not separate houses haha … but to realize that “one flesh” does not mean being joined at the hip in every activity if that’s how the temperaments work out.
Lisa Beth W. says
I have Primal Loss and would love to win this book of Leila’s to share with others. I am blessed with a strong marriage and ache to see others giving up on theirs.
Katherine says
The link to the Easter coloring page seems to be broken.
Christina A says
I couldn’t get the coloring page link to work either…
Leila says
Sorry — mistake in the code. I fixed it!
Christina A says
Thanks!
Chris says
I try to read a book about marriage once a year. Would love to win this one.
Carol Wells says
Thank you for your wonderful column. I would like to be entered for a chance to receive Miller’s book.
Marianne says
I would love to be entered. Thanks for all the useful content.
Kathleen says
Thank you for the give away. What a useful book: I am always I inspired by those who stayed nd fought for their marriages.
I love your blog. Looking forward to the publication of your book
Sharon P says
This sounds like an interesting read! I will put it on my list. There are so many that need this book. Thanks for bringing it to our attention.
Mary says
I would love a chance to win a copy, thank you!
Kelly says
Thank you for this giveaway-I hope the book makes it into just the right hands.
I would love to win a copy of the book! It would be an interesting read, but more importantly, it would be a great resource that I’d love to share with a friend.
It keeps snowing here in Colorado-I feel your pain!
Elizabeth says
Finally, some advice for marriages to persevere. This book would be excellent in our work with engaged couples and struggling friends and family. Thank you for introducing us to this work, and I would be blessed to win a copy.
Donna says
It’s good to see a book written of hope and perseverance. It is much needed.
Kelley says
It’s good to see a book written of hope and perseverance. It is much needed.
Emily says
I would love to read this book!
YES on occupational licensing. Man, when I worked in the state senate, the amount of STUFF that we saw, all the little areas of overreach, it was nuts. Why do people need to be LICENSED to cut hair? To paint nails? Why?
Angelique says
I would love to be entered. It’s unfortunate, but it seems like the emphasis on “how to have a happy marriage” which is what marriage prep usually consists of, can have the unfortunate side effect of giving the impression that if a marriage is not happy it has failed. No one tells you that you can still have a good life and grow in holiness even with an unhappy marriage, no one gives you advice on how to live with it or encouragement to do so. Here’s hoping this book can help fill that need!
Jennifer Campbell says
I would love to read this book regardless. Thanks for offering a giveaway!
Mel says
I’ve enjoyed and been strengthened by your blog for years— I’d love the chance to read this marriage book as well. Thanks for offering this.
Ann says
Joyous and Blessed Easter to you and your family! Would love to receive a copy of Leila Miller’s book. Attempting to learn how to be a “first responder” for troubled marriages among my family and friends. Thank you for hosting this giveaway. It is so needed!
Andrea Rodriguez says
There are so many great links! Thank you! And, I’d love to read that book!
Molly R. says
Happy Easter! Christ is risen! Thank you for offering the giveaway…and thank you for all the links. I always enjoy perusing intelligent content over the course of the week.
Amanda says
I’d love to win a copy of that book. Thank you for doing a giveaway! I’ve gotten to witness a couple who didn’t “end the story in the middle,” and it was impressive to watch God work.
Laura Jeanne says
I would love to enter the giveaway, if it’s okay for Canadians to enter. Thanks for the chance!
By the way, here in southern Ontario we’ve had plenty of snow the past days. I am so relieved that today it’s a bit warmer and the sun is shining…and my first tulip has bloomed!
Melissa C says
I’d love this book! My husband is an Orthodox priest and he often counsels people on the brink, as it were.
Anamaria says
For awhile Leila Miller was giving away copies of the other book to priests- you might see if that’s still the case!
Theresa says
Marriage is the foundation of a civil society. We need these stories of hope and heroism to persevere in running the course. Looking forward to reading this!
RobynAderyn says
Please enter me! Thank you thank you!!! 😀
RobynAderyn says
Please enter me! This is such an important book! Thank you thank you!!! 😀
apeatman says
I would love to win the book. Also, is there anywhere else you can buy it besides amazon?
Lisa G. says
Leila, I’m so glad to know about the vaccine issue! I have also been wanting to send information about what goes into children’s vaccines to someone, but I can’t find it again on your blog here; it was a link to an article by a female doctor affirming that fetal tissue is in vaccines that kids get – I just cannot locate it. Does anyone remember?
Sara says
You might try the Children Of God for Life website which keeps track of ethical vaccines.
Ava says
Interested : )
C says
Not sure my comment made it through…
I’d really appreciate this book. A prayer answered. I entered a marriage 10 years ago unaware my husband has some very serious problems that have caused me trauma and endangered me and my children. Living out my vows but it’s so much harder when the particular problem and suffering is something you can’t talk about. Lonely to experience all on my own. A book offering Hope would be useful to me. Thanks for the opportunity.
sibyl says
C, I’m praying for you today. Remember, He who loves you best is very, very pleased with your faithfulness! Even if you can’t live with your husband for safety’s sake, those kept promises are like gems on your crown. God bless you, dear heart.
Donna L. says
*C* I will pray for you tomorrow–Divine Mercy rosary–May God bless you and keep you!
Charlene says
I would love to win a copy of this book. Thank you for the giveaway!
Ashley Jeanne says
Oh Auntie Leila, thank you! What a Godsend to know about Leila Miller’s new book and be able to purchase if I don’t succeed in the giveaway. I’ve been following LMLD for six years, since I was expecting my first baby, yet have never felt compelled to comment until now. Sadly, because that child’s godparents (Catholic! Met at church! Work at the church! Six years wed! With a child!) are desiring to separate for a time (just that, but still!). I will read the book myself but it will be hurriedly mailed off to them whom I love and pray for.
Federoff11 says
I left my review on amazon. 🙂 But I’d love to have some physical copy to anonymously mail to friends and family.
Rebecca says
Entering in to giveaway!
The shrine really is beautiful but be sure to wear your walking shoes, it’s a bit of a treck up and while you can get a ride its sorta cheating if you don’t really need it 😉
graciefarlie says
Enter me as well!
BridgetAnn says
Thank you for the chance to receive a copy of this book!
My Dad always gives books to his children & grandchildren for Christmas. I asked him for “Hannah Fowler” this past Christmas, per your suggestion, and really enjoyed it! Wish it continued longer 🙂
Jess says
A couple months ago, my parents announced that they would be getting divorced after over 30 years of marriage. I would love to give this to them. They are moving with alarming speed toward it and the only thing that has kept the papers from being signed is the quarantine. Thank you for the opportunity to win this!
Pamela Walker says
Thank you for the chance to win the book.
Mary Edgerley says
You never, never, never fail to inspire and inform me through your beautiful blogsite! I would dearly love to win a copy of the book you are giving away……..I know exactly who would receive it from me in turn! Thank you for your encouragement to fashion a home environment with Jesus right in its very center! <3
Jaia says
I would love a copy of this book! So needed in these times…
Angela F says
I know this will be a great read and is much needed. Thanks for the chance to win a copy!
rozylass says
If I don’t win a copy of this book I’ll be sure to purchase a copy. Much needed!
Anthony Jones says
Please enter me into the raffle! I would appreciate reading these stories as I am discerning marriage right now! Thank you for your work and God bless.
Sarah Abreu says
So excited to hear about this book! I have a few friends in mind that could really use it!
Meaghen says
I would love to enter the giveaway. This is such a needed message right now in our world!
Mary says
I would really like this book. My mother believed in the vows she made and was a faithful wife to my father who was very difficult! He was a good father, but not a very loving husband at all. Now they have are a sweet old couple, still yell a lot, but they raised 6 children, have 31 grandchildren and 12 greats with 2 on the way. So grateful that my mother hung in there when her sister and others were saying it would be okay to leave. We have had their support for over 55 years. god bless you, Mary
C says
This is encouraging. My father left his marriage to my mom when I was an infant, only child. He left for another woman and chose not to be in my life. My mother is still very wounded, over 40 yrs later. I grew up hearing loads of negative comments about men so it’s only by the grace of God that I still desired marriage, I married but am in an unhealthy marriage. We married in the church with the goal to reach heaven but there is a lot of darkness we fight due to his past and still existing troubles. We have 5 young children and I can only hope my perseverance will bring goodness to our family in the future.
Elizabeth W says
Dear C, saying a prayer for you right now! God bless you and your husband.
Sara says
Growing up in a broken home is so damaging—as is feeling unloved and rejected by your father. I’m sorry. Reading Leila Miller’s first book Primal Loss is also helpful in showing how your past wounds affect your marriage. For me, knowing that some tendency I have is part of those wounds helps me move past it and learn to respond in a healthy way. God bless you!
Iku says
Love to read it.
sibyl721 says
Pick me! pick me! Thanks for this giveaway.
Carol says
Looks like a very important and timely book, looking forward to reading it!
Kelly says
Please enter me for this important work. Thank you.
Gwenny says
I’d be so happy to win a copy. Someone in my life is about to make a terrible mistake. 💔
Karl says
Perhaps, one day, there will be a miracle and our brokenness, healed?
Magdalene Guzik says
Rediscovering your blog – thank you for passing on your wisdom! I would love to read your latest book!
Kristen says
Thanks for the chance to win!
Donna L. says
I would love a chance to read this book–However~ I will pray that whoever needs it most will win~
Nicole Mureiko says
Thank you for your wonderful blog, Auntie Leila! I have gained so much knowledge and inspiration from reading your posts! I especially enjoy perusing the archives.
I pray this new book will be a help to many couples and marriages.
-Nicole M.
Angie says
I loved her first book Primal Loss and have recommended it to many people. I look forward to reading this one. Hopefully it will be free. 😀
Natalie says
I would love to win a copy! Thank you for a fantastic giveaway!
Beth P says
Fantastic cover 😏
Tracy says
Awesome Giveaway! Thank you! I’m a big fan of both Leila’s writings! If I won a copy, I’d pass it on to others!
Kacey says
Entering to win a copy of the book also. I’m grateful my friend shared this page! I love the links to COG and the liturgical Calendars are beautiful!!!! If I win I will share with a homeschooling friend in a horrible situation (not abusive).
Olivia says
Dear Leila, I am separated from my husband who has the disease of alcoholism. We’ve been married 42 years. I must stayed married for God, for my children and grandchildren. would love a copy of the book you’re giving away. Blessings, Olivia
Jamie Castillo says
Excellent post as always. Thank you for your sound wisdom.
Jaime Gugala says
I would love a copy of the book. My Catholic parents, married 44 years, are scheduled for divorce this summer. If chosen, the book would go to them. I have read Primal Loss and strongly believe Leila Miller’s books help those struggling with the fallout from divorce. Thank you to both Leila’s! 🙂
Ann says
Would really like to own a copy of this book!
Janine says
Love your blog! Look forward to reading you every week. Would love to win a copy of the book.
Colleen says
Primal Loss was such a gift – I shared it with others – hopefully it helped them as much as it helped me. Looking forward to reading how couples didn’t end the story in the middle (every COD dream), I already have a couple in mind to share it with. Thank you to both Leila’s!
Catherine Bovey says
I would love a copy. I got Leila Miller’s “Raising Chaste Catholic Men” and want to get the Primal Loss and the giveaway book someday. Both books seem like ones every Catholic should read if only to have the knowledge to pass on to others in our lives. I don’t need it like some other commenters though, so I too hope that those who need it most win the giveaway. Love your blog, Leila!
Catherine says
I would love to read this book! I know of several instances where couples stay together heroically in this manner but it is still devastating and damaging to the children. Interested to hear what Leila says.
Candice says
My brother in law and his wife are on the verge of divorce, with four small children to suffer the consequences. Their situation is so so difficult and most everyone is rooting for their marriage to end. These are faithful Catholic people (and others) telling them to move on. It’s crushing. I read the description you provided for this book to my husband and we immediately ordered a copy to send to the wife (they are currently living in separate states from each other for longer than before planned because of covid). I’m praying she reads it and this book gives her the push she needs (along with assurance from us that we’re rooting for them) to save her marriage. It means hard work and major sacrifice for her for sure, but also for him. Thank you for offering the giveaway. I’d love to read the book myself if I won.
Laura Kwiatkowski says
You’re so right that people need to have stories about perseverance in marriage, real life role models. Would love a copy, thanks for the chance.
Cathleen Guisti says
I would love a copy for a friend. Thank you for this generous offer!
Laura S. says
Thanks for the giveaway! By the grace of God, I have very little personal experience with divorce among my family or friends. It would be interesting and beneficial for me to learn from this book, I think.
I read “Hannah Fowler” this past year after your recommendation, and enjoyed it. Thanks for continuing to check in here on your blog! I’m eagerly awaiting THE BOOK! 😀
Sheila Black says
I purchased 2 copies of primal loss one for my daughter and one for her partner. Alas they still separated but at least they are aware of the disservice they have done to their daughter. I will purchase this book too if only to confirm what I already know…marriage isn’t easy, but staying the course is not only worth it but necessary. Thank you Leila for your common sense approach to….well life.
Lisa says
I’m not here to win a copy of the book (although that would be wonderful!)….I just wanted to say how excited I am to learn of someone else who loves Hannah Fowler as much as I do! Janice Holt Giles is one of my favorite authors and HF is in my top ten favorite books ever. I love how her husband cares for her as she does such hard and brave things in her life. 40 Acres and No Mule is one I also love….!
Kathia says
I was tempted to share my own marriage story for this book, but never got around to it. I am SO glad it was written, and I’ve got people in my life who could really use a copy (as I’m sure most everyone does). This message is so desperately needed right now. And for all the commenters who spoke of having marital issues that they felt they could not share with anyone, and thus struggled alone, I feel your pain and will add my prayers for you.
Danielle Lajoie says
Thank you Leila. I look forward to reading this book. Happy Low Sunday!
Margaret says
Sadly, I think everyone knows someone who could use this book. Hopefully this book will help to change that. Thank you for the chance to win.
April says
Auntie Leila! You know I need this one! Thank you!
Caitlin says
I’d love to win a copy of the marriage book!
As an interesting aside to the bathroom article, I have an idea to provide. I’m from Pittsburgh,PA, a city where many years ago many men worked in a mine or a mill. Most older homes have a bathroom in the basement. The man of the house would come home (usually through an entrance IN the basement) and remove his clothing and wash up before going upstairs. This would be a worthwhile consideration for anyone building a home! Or at least a “family entrance” for everyday use leading into a mudroom with a power room, if not full bath. Although, moms might appreciate a full bath to deal quickly with muddy children!
I’m anticipating many changes to our lives on the horizon.
Leila says
Caitlin, I so agree! When we moved here I made sure that the little lavatory in our mudroom (really, main entrance though) became a 3/4 bathroom. Had there been room for a tub I would have put it in, but even having the shower there with a flexible hose handle is just awesome for the scenario you describe!
A different Caitlin says
(Different Caitlin here! But I also have lived in Pittsburgh!) yes, this is such a good setup, what I want for our forever home.
Melanie Smith says
I would love to read the marriage book, thank you
Amy says
I would love a copy of this book!
Christina A says
I’ve been looking forward to this book’s publication; would love to win it, especially as we have friends on the brink of divorce. 🙁
Kristi I says
The comments here are wonderful! All the excitement for this book!
I’m a contributor to Leila Miller’s Primal Loss book, and it’s been a honor to see the difference that book has made! I’m eager to read her new book — if I don’t win the giveaway, I’ll buy it.
I just ordered Hannah Fowler and 40 Acres and No Mule. Thanks, Auntie Leila!
Lisa says
I would love to win. It looks like a great book!
Leigh Sabey says
What a nice giveaway! Thank you. I would love to win a copy of the book.
Cristina S says
Thank you both for the opportunity to win a copy of this book.
Heidi F. says
Thank you for sharing about this book! My husband and I are going on 15 happy years of marriage, and until recently, our entire circle had remained untouched by the scourge of divorce. And then suddenly, this year, it feels like dominos falling around us, and we have had no idea how to help. It’s so hard to watch.
Stephanie Langley says
Thank you for all you do, Leila! We appreciate you!
Elizabeth says
I would love to read this book, whether by winning a copy or purchasing one down the line.
I know of several marriages that have stood and endured hardships that would have resulted even in a justified divorce, including members of my own family.
Nina says
Child of divorce in the 60’s. My siblings and I are all on our first marriages.
Elizabeth Reger says
Would love to win a copy of this book! Thank you for all you do!
ChrisC says
I’d like a copy. Have a horrible marriage.
Mary Ann M says
I would love to read this book and share it with a relative who’s marriage is on the brink of collapse, even though in the eyes of those around them they seem to have the perfect family and life.
Summer Anderson says
Primal Loss was such an important book to me as a child of divorce. I have been looking forward to this new book for some time and would love to win a copy! Thank you both for the important work you do to support marriage and families.
Maura says
Fascinating book. My husband and I have been married ten years. We spent our third wedding anniversary in a pediatric palliative care facility with our second daughter who passed away at 4 months old. There have been many dark and difficult days, months and years since then, but the presence of our then two-year old daughter pushed us to keep fighting for our marriage. 7 years later we are in a much better place thanks to wonderful counsellors, priests, family and friends. We just welcomed our 4th and are so grateful for the graces and gifts that God has given us, but it does take commitment, support and grace.
Theresa Korte says
i would love a copy to share with someone I know who could use this. Thank you!
Holly says
I’d love to read this and share it. It is an excellent time for messages of hope and God’s constancy 🙂 Thank you!
Melissa says
I would love a copy of her book! I’m a regular reader but a silent one. 🙂
I’m glad to make myself known for the sake of this generous chance.
Vera says
I’d like to be entered in the giveaway as well! I don’t know how you are going to choose! 🙂 I feel like I’m stuck in a rut in my own marriage and nothing I do really seems to make things better 🙁
Michelle says
Thank you for bringing my attention to this book and reminding me about Primal Loss. My brother-in-law is facing divorce from his wife of twenty years who has suddenly discovered she’s a lesbian… They have two sons. He has promised to read whatever I send, and I just sent the Consecration to St. Joseph to him even though he’s not Catholic- he was open to it. Will definitely look into sending these along too. God bless you.
elizabeth says
Thank you for offering these. I’d love a copy. I find I am “encouraged” to divorce over fighting for my marriage. 😔
Christina says
Auntie Leila, thank you so much for your blog and for this giveaway offer! I look forward to your posts with great enthusiasm as you always have such wise words to share! I’m in my 7th year of marriage to a non-Catholic, with 2 beautiful children, and would love to read this book as inspiration to stay the course, as I’m sure we have years of trying times ahead of us. I would love to share it with my siblings too, who are all still discerning if marriage is the right course for them.
Jane says
I would like to have the chance to receive the book.
Meredith Riddle says
I’m interested in entering the giveaway. Happily married for 7 years with 3 great kids. Our faith brought us together and keeps us there. Thanks!
Clare says
I would love to read this book!
Christine says
Thanks for always being a wonderful resource to inspire us in our parenting, mothering and marriages. I would love to read this book!
Sarah says
I would love to win and read this book!
Monica says
I’d like to read both this and her previous book on divorce. Still hoping my parents’ marriage can be saved, even after civil divorce.
Diana says
I would LOVE to win one of these, and will be buying one if I don’t!! 🙂
Caroline says
I would love to read this book. I’m a longtime reader getting ready to be married in a few weeks (in what will likely be a very small wedding due to obvious reasons, but we are embracing it as “a story for the grandchildren”!). Your LMLD vision of marriage and family life has truly shaped my desires and intentions for my own marriage — I even had my fiance read the “4 secrets” back in our early days of dating. Thanks for being so willing to share your wisdom with us!
Leila says
Oh wonderful! Congratulations!!
thedaltonfam says
Please enter me!
Rebecca says
Auntie Leila, I loved and was challenged by your Four Secrets post. I can see that my struggle with #3 is downright silly: I am 49 and the chances of me getting pregnant at this age is so small. Yet I’ve let the world trick me into avoiding the marital embrace at times, worrying I’d be taking this huge risk of having a sick or disabled child. I’m ashamed of myself for that. I am supposed to trust God in this, completely, including opening my heart to whatever He has planned. So thank you for your wisdom. You’re helping me be a better wife!
And please enter me in the giveaway for Leila Miller’s book. I deeply admire her work.
Kimmy says
Your poor daffodils in the snow! That’s about all the snow we got in Oklahoma. Thank you for your blog post. It is so heartening. We are currently going through a rough patch ourselves.
Leila says
The daffodils made it fine! We did pick some so they wouldn’t get blown down by the wind a few days later… But we are ready for REAL SPRING!!
Under Mary's Mantle says
I am really suffering and I am looking for any help or insight to help me be a holy saint in this difficult position. Maybe this book can help.
Rebekah says
Thank you so much for your courage to consistently write and defend the truth. May God bless you! And I’d love to receive the book!
christi says
Love to read.
Rachael says
I wish my parents would read this book. They are divorcing after 30 years because my mom is no longer happy. It’s been a long bitter divorce fight for almost 3 years now. It has completely disrupted my relationship with my parents (barely speaking to my mother, who just wants to convince me that she is right). I think I need to read primal loss. To top it off I’ve been pregnant or nursing or both the entire time so my emotions are oh so stable (baby #3 due any day now 😂). Nothing to say but thanks for drawing my attention to this book. I know the give away is closed but this definitely spoke to my grieving heart.