Lent is approaching. (It begins on Ash Wednesday, March 6, in case you get taken by surprise like I do.) This penitential season brings with it the call to do more, to deepen our relationship with God. Let's take a look at how to choose a devotional practice to achieve this goal.
Tuesday was one of those days when my Magnificat magazine's meditation expressed some thoughts I've had about something; in this case, a troubling development in spiritual direction. (His words are not specifically about Lent, but Lent is coming, so we'll apply them.)
The excerpt, from Blessed Columba Marmion, offers a guide — I think one especially important for women who are busy with so many cares and who are consumers of the many, many devotionals available and promoted on social media.
Although Marmion speaks here about Phariseeism, which emphasizes rules and adherence to form above God's law — the subject of the Mass reading, Mark 8: 14-21 — what he says can also be applied to spiritual reading that manipulates one's emotional state, causing us to make a connection between depth of spiritual progress and how we feel about it.
It's the latter that concerns me now, because in our time sentimentalism, motivationalism (if I may coin a word for a particular genre), and the therapeutic dominate.
This is the passage (I've broken it up a bit for ease of reading):
We see how important it is in this matter to distrust our own judgment, our own lights; how important it is not to base our holiness upon such or such a practice of devotion, however excellent, which we choose for ourselves, nor upon such or such an observance of our religious rule.
Such an observance may be suspended by a higher law, as is, for example, the law of charity towards our neighbor. Holiness for us must be based before and above all upon the fulfilment of the divine law, the natural law, the precepts of the decalogue, the commandments of the Church, and the duties of our state.
A piety that does not respect this hierarchy of duties ought to be held suspect: all ascetism that is not governed by the precepts and doctrine of the Gospel cannot come from the Holy Spirit who inspired the Gospel. “Whosoever are led by the Spirit of God,” says Saint Paul, “they are the sons of God.”
Will you go through it again, line by line with me? Let's see how Marmion can help us discern the helpful vs. the unhelpful.
We see how important it is in this matter to distrust our own judgment, our own lights; how important it is not to base our holiness upon such or such a practice of devotion, however excellent, which we choose for ourselves
On some level, all devotions are ones we choose for ourselves. Even if they are suggested by a spiritual director, well, we chose the spiritual director and chose to take his suggestions. Only the Liturgy is outside of this movement of our will towards or away from a particular devotion.
It's not wrong to take practices upon ourselves (prayers, readings, penitential acts), but we have to have awareness that they are chosen by ourselves, and for our own sake, we need to have a healthy suspicion precisely of ourselves, because the self is not God. As important as it is to be careful of what we eat, it is immensely more important to be careful of spiritual food, which can be for our health or can lead to spiritual sickness.
nor upon such or such an observance of our religious rule.
This means that if you were a member of a religious order, or as a lay person, have taken upon yourself some rule (such as becoming a Third Order Carmelite or even imposing upon yourself something like “a mother's rule of life”), it does not supersede God's law. Religious life requires many little and big sacrifices of one's own will under obedience, for perfection's sake; nevertheless, charity and truth are always paramount:
Such an observance may be suspended by a higher law, as is, for example, the law of charity towards our neighbor.
If your children are sick, for instance, it's the better part of devotion to tend to them, not rigidly to adhere to your prayers before the Blessed Sacrament. The mother of a family has the duty to see to it that they get supper. If the supper burns, it doesn't excuse her that she was praying.
But let's be realistic: I don't think that most of us suffer from excessive adherence to our pre-planned schedule of spiritual development! The danger doesn't lie there, I venture to say.
Most women today, reading this, are, much like me, trying to get some prayer, any prayer, into a life filled with unexpected circumstances and distractions and all-round busyness. And most of us aren't over-schooled in self-discipline, either. We can't help it, poor us. We are really quite comfortable and likely to remain so.
Here is his prescription:
Holiness for us must be based before and above all upon the fulfilment of the divine law
The divine law was summed up by Our Lord in the Great Commandment:
Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.
the natural law
The natural law can be looked at, briefly, in two ways.
One way is simply to acknowledge and respect the causes of things, meaning above all their ends or goals. For instance, the end or goal of eating is nutrition, and pleasure is a gift that goes along with that goal. If we make pleasure the first goal in eating, we go against the natural law. Children have to develop according to their natures; if we try to rush them or fail to help them in the way they require at the proper times, we go against the natural law.
The other way is expressed in the Cardinal Virtues, or virtues that can be approached and understood by reason, making them accessible to all. These virtues are Prudence, or right judgement; Justice, or giving each his due (including God and ourselves); Temperance, or self control and achieving the right order of things interiorly; and Fortitude, or the courage to do the Good.
You can see, even with this little explanation, how vast a field of devotion is open to us simply by naming these things! Reality itself is cause for joy; contemplating all these good things brings us far along in the spiritual life.
the precepts of the decalogue, the commandments of the Church
Marmion, having already mentioned the divine law, reinforces its importance with another reference to the Ten Commandments (the decalogue's precepts, so frequently extolled in the Liturgy — pay attention to the Mass and the Divine Office and you will quickly realize how often we are exhorted to love the Lord's precepts, to walk in his ways, to learn his commandments, to keep them, never to forsake them).
How often do we take to prayer the commandments of the Church? Her teachings regarding the different kinds of prayer and their importance for us, her expositions of the natural and divine laws, her exhortations to piety? What about just reading the Catechism of the Catholic Church?
Do the devotionals coming into our inbox or tempting us from the catalog emphasize this vital aspect of the spiritual life?
and the duties of our state.
The “state” of a woman with a husband and a family is the state of marriage. Do we think of that state as involving duties which it is in our spiritual interest to fulfill, or do we see it as either a sort of self-fulfillment exercise or even a burden — something we have to be talked into all the time, something we can't confront or fulfill without constant pep talks and assurances that we will be left with a reasonable amount of freedom — that some part of our inner self will remain untouched?
Sometimes I think that women enter into this state freely and then spend the rest of their lives trying to escape!
Is this Lent's devotional that we're signing up for steeped in a spirit of helping us go deeper into our duties (which represent God's will, remember!), deeper into the details of Holy Scripture, and deeper into life's hierarchies, or does it pull us away by enticing us with visions of emotional fulfillment? Is it a “prosperity gospel” in that sense, that we expect a sort of transcendent realization in the now, discernible in our feelings?
The reality of a “state of life” (marriage is one, religious life is another) is that it, how shall I put this, curtails our scope of action for the purpose of a greater good; it's precisely service to our fellow man (and child!). By necessity we must be curtailed! There is no other way to do anything of value! As long as every choice is open to us, we are in the condition of not having chosen. When we choose, we by definition limit the scope of what we can do — yet, paradoxically, we find our true creativity. If we seek creativity up front, we get personal destruction. Really creative persons — artists — know this. The form gives the real freedom.
You are probably waiting for me to quote G. K. Chesterton, so here you go!
Every act of will is an act of self-limitation. To desire action is to desire limitation. In that sense, every act is an act of self-sacrifice. When you choose anything, you reject everything else… Every act is an irrevocable selection and exclusion… The artist loves his limitations: they constitute the thing he is doing.
I think we could also say, “Every lover loves his limitations: they constitute the possibility of love.”
The difference between spurious and real spirituality is that the latter reminds us that suffering and self-denial are the essence of the Christian's life, in the pattern set by the Savior. Suffering joined with Our Lord's suffering bring us along the road of purgation — a Lenten road; the only road that leads to understanding (what the saints call illumination) and finally, union with God.
One's state of life brings with it things that must be attended to. When we do so with love, this disposition in itself constitutes a devotion. Here is the heart of the mystery, to be accepted or rejected. If we allow ourselves to be led away from total self-giving to God's plan for us (that is to say, to God), we allow ourselves to be led away from the offering of love. And that would negate devotion.
But attending to the things that pertain to your state in life frees you to love.
A piety that does not respect this hierarchy of duties ought to be held suspect
This observation is your tool of discernment, moving forward into Lent (or into whatever moment arises when we choose to go deeper in our spiritual life). Piety, the expression of devotion and worship, submits to the hierarchy, or ordering, of duties and indeed of life itself.
No doubt whoever is offering us a devotional is motivated by a desire to bring us closer to God — but will we end up closer if we fail to consider the claims upon us before embarking? Instead of a willingness to be led by feelings and emotions, our criteria should be tough-minded and yes, hold suspect anything that doesn't turn us closer to our responsibilities.
all asceticism that is not governed by the precepts and doctrine of the Gospel cannot come from the Holy Spirit who inspired the Gospel.
Asceticism isn't a word I'd apply to many — most — of the devotionals I see in the Catholic or broader Christian spiritual offerings today. I see very little in the way of denial of self, of helping the target audience identify the cross, take it up, and be heartened in knowing that in Christ, the burden is light.
We should be able to lean on trustworthy authority in the Church: bishops who are supposed to protect the well being of the faithful, guarding the flock against false shepherds and opportunists. Sadly, our protectors have fled the fold. Their indifference to the monetization of devotion — the rise of a spiritual marketplace teeming with self-proclaimed experts — seems even to be part of their plan; our pastors seem happy to outsource their duties, to engage surrogates for what ought to be accessible directly from them.
The Church is constituted to offer each person what he needs to be holy. But in our confused time it might not be easy to figure this all out. And let's be clear: “results” — as has always been the case, as the martyrs testify — might not be discernible right away or even for quite a long time. As St. Paul says in First Corinthians, “But with me it is a very small thing that I should be judged of you, or of man's judgment: yea, I judge not my own self.”
Being a Christian means grasping this hiddenness, accepting it, being willing to follow Him even in the darkness.
We can do hard things, my friends! Armed with knowledge (such as this truly helpful passage from Dom Marmion), we can fight this battle and win!
“Whosoever are led by the Spirit of God,” says Saint Paul, “they are the sons of God.”
The Spirit of God is not a vague, formless penumbra of an enabling and manageable deity. He is the Third Person of the Trinity. If we want to be one with God, we have to submit to His Spirit and not go our own way to seek affirmation apart from Him.
Luke 21: 36 Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that ye may be accounted worthy to escape all these things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son of man.
What do I recommend?
I don't have any quick downloadable pretty ways to get spiritual enlightenment, nor have I done an in-depth survey of what's available. It might take some work to find what is really good for you, in your present situation. Ideally you'd have a wise spiritual director, but believe me, I know how few and far between those are.
St. Joseph, St. Theresa of Avila tells us, is an admirable spiritual director when we can't find a here-and-now one. Ite ad Iosef, as Scripture tells us — Go to Joseph — he has the vast stores from which he will protect us from famine.
I have a few suggestions — keeping in mind that Blessed Columba Marmion himself taught that prayer is at its core, conversation with God. So while my suggestions might not be easy, they are simple. It will take more work than just opening your inbox, but it will be uncomplicated in the sense that help is available and trustworthy when we remain connected to the tradition handed down to us.
- The Magnificat magazine is tremendously helpful. Recently a new editor took over; I hope that they will stay beautiful and traditional in their meditations. I always enjoy the monthly essays on how the Church transformed the world, by Tony Esolen.
- If you're looking for a book about the Cardinal Virtues and how to grow in them that is broken down with questions that work well for a bookclub or reading group, I recommend Christopher Blum's A Mind at Peace. (Affiliate link)
- Here is a post about good spiritual reading from or about saints.
- Here's a post about living your Lent.
- Definitely not quick and easy (but also, a very short book): My Lenten reading guide on Romano Guardini's Spirit of the Liturgy. I think you — and your book group — could do it! I will help you and if you have questions, just leave them on the post and I will do my best to answer or find someone who can!
- For the busy woman who wants a direct infusion of grace, maybe this is the season to delve into the Divine Office. You can download the Universalis app and have the daily Hours at your fingertip. This Lent, what about choosing one Hour (say, the Office of Readings — at the longest one it's about 12 minutes) and make a commitment to pray it before you head to other destinations on the web.
- We explain how to pray along with the universal Church in our book, The Little Oratory (affiliate link), by means of your own home altar. Honestly, if you haven't made your own little oratory in your home, now could be the time — this Lent might be just the moment for you to do it!
- Here is our very own St. Gregory Pocket Reading List — many of these suggestions would be edifying for Lent and work well with a reading group.
A few little notes that were too long to put in the main post:
- I love my Magnificat magazine for the help it provides me to follow the liturgical year. The little meditations after the Mass readings often deepen my understanding, especially when they come from some holy man or woman from the past whose words have stood the test of time — it's so easy to forget the treasury we have in the faith, or simply to remain unaware of the spiritual resources from the vast storehouse of wisdom.
- The Marmion passage is from From Christ in His Mysteries, 11th Edition, Mother M. Saint Thomas, Translator.
- The Mass reading (Mark 8:14-21) is the one in which Our Lord tells the disciples in the boat to beware the leaven of the Pharisees and the leaven of Herod. Just for our edification (I had to see what the Church Fathers said about this), the Venerable Bede teaches:
“…the leaven of the Pharisees is making the decrees of the divine law inferior to the traditions of men, preaching the law in word, attacking it in deed, tempting the Lord, and disbelieving His doctrine and His works; but the leaven of Herod is adultery, murder, rash swearing, a pretense of religion, hatred to Christ and His forerunner.”
- John Henry Newman explains the ways in which it is reasonable to trust oneself, and the ways it is not:
Now, when it is said that to trust our own notions is a wrong thing and a vain wisdom, of course this is not meant of all our own notions whatever; for we must trust our own notions in one shape or other, and some notions which we form are right and true. The question, therefore, is, what is that evil trusting to ourselves, that sinful self-confidence, or self-conceit, which is called in the text the “wisdom of the world,” and is a chief cause of our going wrong in our religious inquiries? (This is both a rhetorical question and one which he answers in his sermon, The Self-wise Inquirer, also, on this topic, Religious Emotion.)
Honestly, once you just decide they are not too wordy and long, Newman's sermons are the most wonderful spiritual reading… I know, hard to believe… but just try!
Lauren says
Once again you seem to know just what I need to hear and have been wondering about lately. The Holy Spirit is so great. Thanks Auntie Leila!
Nancy says
Thank you for your Lenten suggestions. I appreciate your substantive and meaningful writing because there is so much “fluff” being written today.
Emily says
Beautiful and encouraging, Leila.
Parelle ~ says
May I recommend the Ordinariate’s Morning and Evening Prayer? There’s an excellent website which has the offices of the day available: http://prayer.covert.org
Leila says
Parelle — thank you! I have the Ordinariate breviary (here’s an article: http://www.newliturgicalmovement.org/2016/02/the-ordinariate-office-wonderful-gift.html#.XG7c1pNKjjA)
This link is very helpful! Note for Roman Rite people: Evening Prayer = Vespers
Tom B. says
It may be that my comment i tried posting here was flagged for spam due to links, and because I wasn’t logged into WordPress. I will try again…
In lieu of the Customary, I recommend the Australian Ordinariate’s Ordo for 2019, containing not only every day’s lectionary for the daily office aligned with what is prescribed for North America (N.B. the Customary’s is not!), but also the entire draft text of the office as approved for public celebration by Msgr Entwistle, the Australian ordinary. The text is based directly on the North American draft pending in Rome (its compiler confirmed this), and is significantly closer to the American office-to-be than either the Customary or Covert’s site. And it is *much* easier to navigate than the Customary. It is under $20 on Lulu. I wrote a review of it here with more info, pics, and link to purchase: https://tomsdigest.wordpress.com/2018/12/29/divine-worship-the-daily-office-a-review-of-the-australian-ordinariates-draft-in-the-ordo-2019/
I hope this is helpful.
Leila says
Tom, thank you!
This is very helpful! It’s going to take me a while to assimilate all the info in your post, but this sounds amazing!!
Claire says
Thank you Leila. Wonderful counsel as always.
Kate says
I started praying the Liturgy of the Hours a few years ago. My husband has been praying it most of our married life (30 years) and since he works at home, he gets in all the hours. I’m not quite that organized, so I’ve committed to Matins and Vespers. It’s been very beneficial to commit to something that isn’t guided by my daily feelings.
Shyla says
One Leila, I appreciate this so much. It’s the best thing I’ve read in a long time. Thank you for helping us toward Christ. God Bless. Xoxo
Lisa G. says
You put this all so well, Leila – thank you! “Reality itself is cause for joy”. Wonderful! I also find Magnificat to be quite enough; in fact, I once bought their Lenten devotional and didn’t care for it. If the monthly is good enough, I realized that I needn’t be adding another thing on top of it. I (hope) I will keep these thoughts in mind for Lent. Thanks again. xo
Leila says
Lisa, I agree — I had the same experience. The Lenten devotional seemed forced to me. I like just having the regular Magnificat readings and then choosing a deeper book for the liturgical season’s spiritual reading.
Audrey says
Excellent post; thank you for this.
Clara says
Thank you for this! Ash Wednesday usually sneaks up on me too. Hopefully I can be a little more intentional about Lent this year.
Kaitlin says
Thank you, yet again.
Teresa says
A very helpful post, Leila – thank you so much for the Marmion quote and the breakdown. You nailed something I have vaguely felt but couldn’t quite put my finger on regarding choosing devotional reading. I’ve always thought about it in classifications of “meat and potatoes” material versus “light and fluffy.” And isn’t the old material so often so very very good? I have an old volume purchased from TAN decades ago entitled A Year with the Saints: A Virtue for Every Month of the Year” (may be out of print now?) which I turn to again and again and it is marvelous; just meaty quotations from the saints pertinent to a specific virtue each month. I definitely want to check out Prof. Blum’s book that you linked for us as well – thank you so much for all you do for us, dear Leila.
Renee says
This is the kind of deep, thoughtful writing that is so helpful, and that so few people seem to do. Thanks Leila, I will be guided by this wonderful advice.
Mary says
Wonderful post, yet again! A few years ago I purchased a devotional that was highly recommended by several Catholic women. It felt so fluffy, and I ended up abandoning it entirely.
Betsy says
Yes! I had read this meditation in my Magnificat too—then stopped and read it again—then dog-eared the page to come back again later. Thanks for going through it and breaking it down. It really spoke to me on its own and now I am pondering it even further.
I find that the Magnificat and the “In Conversation with God” meditation books are the best tools for me to embrace my state in life and follow the liturgical year.
jadeddrifter says
My husband just started reading a book called “Daily Prayer in the Early Church” (Bradshaw) and in the first chapter he says, “The obligation to recite [the Shema’] came to be laid upon all free males…whereas women, children, and slaves were free from this and from all other acts which had to be performed at specific times because their time was not considered to be at their own disposal.” I just had to laugh because it’s so true! Even if I THINK my day is “on track”…it doesn’t ever stay that way. Thanks for this great post.
Lisa G. says
Now, that’s interesting, considering that the Shema is a pretty short declaration, isn’t it? Like, about one sentence? Maybe in those early days, people didn’t pray while they were doing things? That’s very interesting, anyway.
Maria :] says
I appreciated this! A good reminder.
Incidentally, this is one reason I really, really like the Soul Gardening (“a journal for mothers”) booklet. First, it’s funded entirely by voluntary donations, which is sweet, yet unrelated to what I am getting at. But second, and most importantly, it is ENTIRELY about our vocation and, even if not always finding joy (though there is plenty of that!), at least knowing that it is our calling and helping there.
Also, Magnificat, you inspired me to re-subscribe (mine ran out in September and I have been meaning and meaning and meaning to and I finally just DID because you reminded me how it’s often just what’s needed)! Thank you!
Dixie says
It’s so nice to hear you say this. I have my reasons for not caring for some of the popular devotionals but I assumed there was actually some fault in me that made me not like them. I have never actually heard someone else offer criticisms of them. I actually feel much the same way about some parish talks, retreats, etc. (but that is also partly because the format (the crowds, the long lectures) is tiring for me because of my poor-ish health).
Julie Churchwell says
Leila,
Thank you again. You may have just saved my family from a more distracted and cranky mom who is trying to do better, be better, read better. All of the things…all on my plate at all times, and then the joy is gone from all of my obedience because everyone is telling me how to be more spiritually actualized in many different directions. Your post has stopped me in my tracks. Thank you.
Margaret says
I read A Mind At Peace last year, based on your suggestion, and it is wonderful! Always so much insight from you- I needed the reminder going into this week that in accepting what IS, we gain freedom.
Kate says
Thank you for this reflection. I’m a fan and subscriber of Magnificat too. I’ve been wondering if I’m missing out on a more intentional and prayerful Lent because I am not getting one/some of the various devotionals out there, especially the new ones that encourage Bible journaling. Over the past couple of years I haven’t made a purchase because it didn’t sit right with me. I can’t help but think that this form of journaling and coloring is for the emotional state or about feelings.
However, I have some family who have recently found their way back to God but not the Catholic Church yet, and I’ve been looking for resources such as Lenten devotionals that wouldn’t be intimidating or threatening. I think they would read a daily devotional.
Nicole Cox says
Great advice, as always! As Catholics, I think we often forget the primacy of just *reading Scripture* every single day! We’ve been trying to make this a regular priority and habit, just a few minutes of reading through x scripture (for me, just working slowly and surely through the Ignatius New Testament study Bible), followed by Lectio Divina. It’s incredibly simple, especially for a busy mom of littles. I don’t have to make any decisions, just open up to where I left off the last time. I used to do a lot of Liturgy of the Hours as a single person, but have found myself getting too bogged down by wanting to do it “correctly” (e.g. figure out which week we’re on, the right antiphons for feast days, etc), so even that was too much for me (and I don’t like praying with an app or website, which obviously reduces that confusion).
We also have started memorizing various Psalms and scripture passages as a family in our homeschool Morning Time, and it has been another good way to engage with Scripture and the ancient liturgy (we’re choosing mostly the Psalms that appear in the Hours, so it’s like we’re doing a tiny, child-sized portion of the Hours every day).
Vera says
Hi Auntie Leila,
So obviously this post is old and I’m late to the game, BUT I couldn’t just read this one and go along my way. WOW, seriously. Can you imagine what our Church would be like if our priests said an inkling of what you said in the post above? I have the joy of hearing a spiritually coherent homily twice a month and the other Sundays, it’s either stand up comedy, political rants, or simply watered-down feel-good propaganda. Without any condescension at all, there is so much wisdom in your writing. I hope this post makes it into your book and I relish your wisdom on…everything! Thank you for writing!
Leila says
Thank you, Vera! It will be included in the book. I appreciate your enthusiasm!